I just wanted to make one more comment about my perspective shift. I realized while I was posting to GH just now that I have a ton to learn from my W about myself. I have been resistant to really look at a lot of what she's frustrated with me about, partially because of fear that I might not be able to overcome these issues, partly because I feel that I'm ok with myself, so why should I change and partially because she's the one who's screwing things in our M, so the problem lies with her, she just has to come to realize it. She's right about a lot. She's an intelligent person, and she's really perceptive. The improvements that she's nagging me to make are one's that will benefit me in or out of the R, and if I decide to take them on, I'm looking to her input as input, I'm not caving to her demands in order to save the M. This is an important understanding for me, because I don't know what will happen in the M, but I'm with my W for a reason, and that's because I respect her, and I felt that we could grow together. Her perspective is something I was looking forward to having for my entire life, but if I only get to appreciate it for another few months, I want to make damn sure I look for all the beneficial parts of it, and don't discard it because of my fear or hurt.
“No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it. ” – Albert Einstein
