When your wife goes to the Dr would she say: "something is wrong and I'm not going to tell you what my symptoms are. It's up to you to figure it out by just looking at my outsides. If you were the right doctor you'd know what is wrong with me!"
Of course not but that is what they say to us in their "crazed" state. Don't beat yourself up. Easier said than done.
Patience is not only a virtue, sometimes it is an impossibility.
