Yes, you might be right. She may be nuts. And she actually makes sense with a lot of her justifications. I think there's still a lot of good stuff for me to take away from her complaining. I have been talking with my MIL about this stuff, and I think she'll give me lots of useful information. I'm not sure how much my W has talked to her about, but I think she'll have better insight into what W really wants than any other source. I feel stupid for not having tapped into this resource sooner - and I feel like I have done a lot to justify not doing the real work on the relationship here. Maybe now I can do it. Not to say any of this time was a waste, I just haven't gotten to the crux of the relationship issues from her point of view.
I'm dedicated to persisting on this path. Hopefully it's not too late and I'm not committing to misery. W told me that "you're going to fall over when it really happens" and "I'm going to land on my feet." Yes, the stakes are high, and I feel like I might have done more damage than good, but I did communicate that I don't need her, that I'm choosing to want to be with her. I need to learn to act on this much better.
“No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it. ” – Albert Einstein
