Alright - here's a relatively mundane situation that might provide you all with some insight into my sitch:
At lunch I went grocery shopping. I picked up some oven gold turkey for W. It was on sale. Later when I tell W I got her oven gold, she starts getting a bit upset. She told me that last time she told me to just get what was on sale, which was some cracked pepper turkey, but I got her favorite, honey turkey. Today she was frustrated that I got her oven gold instead of honey. I told her that in the past she told me oven gold was fine, and since it was on sale and was ok by her I saw no reason not to get it. She was frustrated and told me that I'm "inconsistant" and seemed really frustrated with me. Any thoughts? My thought is that she is in a bit of a downward spiral, questioning herself and looking for external means of control (consistency being one of them) and when she doesn't have these reinforcements, she gets frustrated and thrown for a loop. So, can I be more consistant? I guess, but then I'm sure she'll find I'm being inconsistant from a different perspective.
“No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it. ” – Albert Einstein
