BI, that's a thought provoking comment. I think in some ways my response to her $hit over the years has been to withdraw or find a way to ignore a lot of it. This escapism is partly to blame for this situation now. I think my withdrawal has made her feel like I don't care. I don't know exactly how to address this, but if I can react differently to her stress, and my resulting stress, things will improve. I think withdrawing tells your partner that you don't care enough to fight (although the fight seems to tell her that her ideas are worthless because I don't validate them, or rather because my differing opinion means she's wrong).
Thanks for giving me this opportunity. Hope you feel better soon (I can relate about the sinus pressure!).
“No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it. ” – Albert Einstein
