Quote: People who have little control over themselves, or little confidence in themselves, tend to try and control people and situations around them in an effort to prove to themselves that they are worthy and smart and everything that they feel they aren't.
Boy, that sure sounds like me. I am very controlling - H has gone so far as accuse me of this. Yet I do know that I have a low self-image and very little confidence in myself. I need people to stroke my ego, I guess, to let me know that I am good and worthy.
Maybe this is what your wife needs too. Do you call her up during the day just to say hi and see how she is? My H used to do this everyday before the bomb, now he rarely, if ever does. This makes me feel like he doesn't care about me. I don't take into account that he may be very busy at work and just doesn't have time to call.
I also like to read, so occassionally my H will pick up a new book by an author I like or bring home one of my favorite magazines; this little jesture makes me think he is thinking about me and cares. Of course I would love a card or flowers but he is just not there yet. Is there something that your wife likes that you could surprise her with? Or is there something that she always does; like change the kitty liter, that maybe you could do for her without making a big production out of it.
