muddle, I would approach it as though you are still in a R. She wants out, not you! Don't tell her she's not a part of your life and has no right.... I see that as slamming the door on your M. Now, if you believe that is the tactic that will turn this around for you, then go for it. But, I don't think that is the case. You are still living together so I would try to work out a way to do so re this issue that works for both of you. It could be a small step towards working out other things. And yes, I think she is still confused about your R and you should keep plugging away at it until she's out that door. Don't push her out...unless that is what you want.
