Just a quick thought. Muddle you say you've functioned in the past as a placator and unless you do it problems aren't resolved. Well, a placator isn't interested in resolving issues but only in restoring the quiet balance, no matter how unhealthy. If your interventions were helping to solve problems then you were not a placator but an active participant in building a R. Don't crap on yourself if you don't deserve it! I know it's pretty darn frustrating when no matter what you do they still find a way to crap on you. Keep taking care of you. Hey, where is everybody tonite? Am I the only one not out following my S around?
