I would have been pretty tempted to say "it's disrespectful to f*** my cousin too" but we all know where that would have gone. I'm quite familiar with the "no matter what you do you are wrong" approach and I think the best thing to do is just recognize that whatisis! You can't please her... end of story. But seeing as how you're looking for ideas, you might want to approach her calmly and try to discuss how you can each be respectful to each other in this situation. She would feel more comfortable knowing you are going to see the Divorce lawyer (sorry, that one slipped) and you would feel more comfortable if she could express herself a little more gently and then tell her exactly what gently means to you. Check out how she would like to be "validated". I mean she is entitled to her feelings and no feeling is wrong. To validate doesn't mean to agree. But, and a big but, you are also entitled to your privacy too and she should respect that. Where this would go nobody knows. It's funny she always carries on about your anger but never seems to notice her own. Maybe that's a talk too. Or you could always do what we guys do best, ignore it and grab the remote...but then maybe that's how we got into these sitch's in the first place. So these are just some thoughts off the top of my head. Maybe they'll spark some better ideas from elsewhere. She's damn lucky to have you, Muddle. Remember that!!!
