Thanks guys, I guess it's almost a delusional romantic sentiment, but one that I plan to live by.
Just a quick comment: at lunch, W was telling me about their morning and all the running around she did. She was bubbly and sounded good. So I told her that she seemed to be doing really well compared to the past few days. She said "haven't you noticed that the past few days I've been great!?!?" to which I replied that I hadn't because she was weird to me everytime we talked. She responded that that was because I pissed her off or frustrated her or something to that effect. I told her I was glad to hear she has been doing well to which she responded that I should have seen it.
So, it's great that she has been doing well, but how am I to know this if she acts nasty and strange to me? I can't, because I only see her when we interact. So, again, I'm the downer in her life now (I can rationalize this as I'm the one that reminds her of the damage she's doing, so I don't make her feel too good). I was upbeat, and I expressed that I was glad she was doing well. Maybe I shouldn't have said anything about her doing well because it may have reminded her that she wasn't doing too well before this, but I wanted her to know that I was noticing her feelings. Anyway - there's not really any significance to this. She's continuing on her path, and I think she's happy to have some direction, to be moving along a path towards something, anything, that might be giving her a way out of the cage that she's in. I hope my support means something to her. I don't know how she can't see that I am sincerely supporting her efforts to get out of this place that she put herself into.
“No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it. ” – Albert Einstein