Muddle, Really think hard about the MBA thing. It puts a real strain on you and your family. That's one of the things my W did which put our M in the dumpster. Yours is already there, do you want to put energy into DBing or your MBA. Maybe I'm wrong here but warning lights go on for me. Can you do one course or something so that you've started and can feel good about that? Also, I've heard all the crap you are being fed "we're different" (yaa, yaa, you're soulmates), "I feel no guilt". Toss it out the window for the crap it really is. For the life of me I can't figure out this A mindset and have discovered it's best not to try. Hang in there, guy.