Hi Muddle, So sorry for your pain right now but actually in your last post you sounded great! I'm just wondering was your W taking medication for? I'm guessing depression. When people are chronically depressed they look for blame elsewhere, and that would be you! They can't face it. Medication might help balance her out and clear her head a bit. You are also right in allowing or encouraging her to be her own person. That is empowering her otherwise she continues to see you as what is holding her back. I hope she does go with the meds but, if not, let her take that trip herself. I know what it is like trying to convince someone to take meds. I got "so I guess that means I'm the problem, if I just get fixed then everything will be OK". It just creates resentment even though you are acting out of love. Lastly, be good to yourself right now, you deserve it!
