Thanks Stevie. I agree that she could walk away, but the consequences of this that she now recognizes are what keeps her from doing so. I did mention this to her in our conversation. Does anyone here know NY State divorce law? Does she have more of a leg to stand on then she thinks? What I'm really struggling against now is that if trying to make the M/family work is the ONLY real option, then I can almost certainly count on resistance/resentment no matter what. It has to be her choice. She even told me that she would be resenting us (me and S4) more now. I have to detach myself from her opinions and feelings. She's so angry at me that everytime we communicate now my stomach hurts. I know this is fear, and I know that she's trying to make things as unpleasant as possible in order to get me to walk away.
Maybe I should. Maybe that's the only way this will get resolved in the long run. I'll give myself a week or so to think about it, and monitor her in the mean time. I know she's still really fresh from her experience, so she needs time to rethink everything and understand where she is herself.
“No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it. ” – Albert Einstein
