Quote: My W asked me last night how much longer I would let her walk all over me like she is. I told her that I didn't think she was walking all over me, because what she is doing isn't about me, she's doing it despite me, not to me. She seemed a little taken back by this, but I think it rang true to her. I think she's back to wanting me to get so fed up with the situation that I decide to walk away. She even told me that she's back to hoping that something will happen to me. Really nice. And this is the person I want to be married to!
Muddle,
If my W took this approach with me, I don't think I would do nearly as well as you. I would probably have said something to the effect of "If you want this to end, pick up the phone, call your lawyer and then there's the door. I will NOT end this for you. I will NOT do your dirty work. I won't get angry at you and give you an excuse to leave. You have all the reasons in the world to leave so do it now. Don't wait for me to do it for you."
But then again, I am not you, and maybe I'm not even me in that I probably would not have said that, but that's what I thought when I read this.
That sucks to say the least. You are doing REALLY well to have handled that like you did.
