I told my W that I accepted her choice but I couldn't respect it. End of story! You are right, muddle. Sometimes I too look at the mess my W has made of everything in the name of her "happiness" and I wonder what possible sense could any of it make. Is this hellish existence better than working on a M with me? Wow! If this is a "growth" experience I prefer to remain stunted. Hang tough, muddle!