Thanks. I don't know if I agree about the rational side of a WAS. I tend to think the intellect is there to support decisions made based on their lower functions. Little gems like: "if there weren't something real between us, we wouldn't still be doing this." "We wouldn't risk all this pain for other people if it wasn't worth it down the line." Your line too about how her actions prove that there was no hope show this same sort of reverse reasoning.
I wish my W could say she tried, because I don't really think she has, nor do I think that she would say she really has. I think that's her way, poor self esteem, etc., to not try rather than try and fail. And, yes, everyone else is at fault for everything that's wrong in her life.
You're right, she does need to believe that this A has nothing to do with the end of our M. My W, unlike a lot of WASs reported on here, is VERY forthcoming with her reasoning. In the beginning of this A, she TOLD me that she had to convince HIM, to make him feel better, that our M was already doomed, even though she didn't think this herself, because she was telling me that she wanted to be with me also. Now I guess she convinced the two of them. What does that make you think?
“No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it. ” – Albert Einstein
