In my experience when we, the males, are thinking about the sexual aspect of these A's the females aren't. Of course, my experience (thank God) is quite limited in this area. As strange as it sounds, I think spouses are more caught up in the emotional aspect of their fantasy. We're caught up in the "getting it on" part. I know when my W asked if she could spend the night at her the OW's because the OW needed support (she needs a shrink, not support!) I told her it made me sick inside to think of them together in that way. My W looked at me in shock, and said disgustedly "we don't do that!" Well,excuse me, what was I thinking!I guess I just forgot that they are on a higher plane than the rest of us lustful creatures. I wouldn't doubt your W is so caught up in the "romantic" notion that the sexual part isn't even in her head but it's sure as heck in yours (rightfully so). Therefore she's shocked that her trip might in some way change your view of her and the R. I'm so pleased to hear that her feelings for you (buzzed or not) are still there. Hope springs eternal (I think that's how that goes). P.S. just for the record, your cousin is an A-hole Muddle!
