Yes GH, I have kept up with your sit to some degree over the last few months and I still read. Reading in here gave me a 2nd wind through this whole thing. I am trying to do exactly what you have said, there but not there. It's just hard sometime to know what to do at the right time.
Her whole issue with me is about attension and this isn't what I would call a normal need for attension. She always basically felt I should put her before anything and everything, even if it was just a 15 minute thing. So, I am willing to be that dedicated, but she needs to be realistic that I do have to occasionally do things before I can get back to her.
That's why I think going dark is a little difficult in this situation. If our biggest problem has been attension and I completely take it away, then I am validating her reason for leaving.
Just something I tread lightly on.
Learn to laugh at it. People are people and everyone is human. Choose how you will act and don't re-act.
