This is an excerpt of a letter my W wrote me when I went on a trip a week ago to hang out with friends from our old home town. Anyway, here's the excerpt:
"I am thankful for all you to and bring to my life. I want you to learn to save a litle for yourself without worrying too much about me. You were a completely separate individual when I fell in love with you. Trust that."
So my advice to you is to really find yourself. I know that sounds so 60s but its really true. You and I both know that we have compromised little bits of ourselves because we thought that's what we had to do in order to have a "good" relationship. After I read the "Passionate Marriage" I realized that's what set up a lot of our problems. You have to be yourself, no matter what - and the really scary part is that once you start really doing that whether its GAL or PMA you'll realize that your SO respects you more than they did when you were making those little compromises.
