What Does She Want?

[cat03]

hey there, on the same boat, my H doesn't have those feelings yet and i don't know how much of the OP he misses.
Keep up the good work, this will take a while, my H has warmed up some, since he's moved back in April, there will be improvements, little by little. Then, inevitably you'll take one step forward and 2 steps back. Instead of a restaurant why dont you guys do something more physical, go dancing, rollerstaking, etc. The same thing happened to us when our old C suggested to go out on dates, the first (and only, we didnt do it again back then) dinner out we only talked about painful stuff, we couldn't connect.
Then again, you W might not be ready, only time will help. But in the meantime you are doing a good job. Same here about sx, I won't initiated unless he does, I want him to mean it not to humor me.

Set yourself for a long haul, give her time. Revert to that person you were when you first met, dont' try too hard, be confortable in your own skin, the rest will come.