Thank you both for the replies. Greeneyedlass I like the strategy of doing something only slightly different. I like the note idea, but at the moment H is so LD that the passion he feels is brief and rare, so it will prob come over as persuit, and will pressure him. Am reading SSM, just reading that I was wrong about guys wanting sex for the sake of it, that it really is a feeling thing for them too - what an eye opener! How comfortable am I? Well, I do sometimes - ahem "dance with myself" but I am always in a rush, so I can get that itch scratched and move on to something else (like the laundry or the shoppnig). Blimey! The more I type the more obvious it is what my problem is! OK - goal for me = to feel that I am sexy. First sign = will put on nice underwear How? Well, I am going to pamper myself a bit, go back to the gym, see if I can drop a bit more weight (lost 50lbs over the past 2 years, can't get the motivation for the last 20 I want to get rid of), have a few nice relaxing baths then NOT dress in my baggy pyjamas and comfy teddy bear slippers but something a bit more sensual and grown up. See if I can get the feeling going for myself before I approach H. How does that sound?
Bomb (ILYBINILWY, don't want to be married)Sept05 Seperated Sept/Oct 05 Oct 06 - H recomitted July 11 - I am now a WAW.
