RE GEL Write him a brief note describing what you would like and then leave it for him to find (on the car seat, so he finds it on his way to work...or on the bathroom mirror).
Jen, just give him the note folded up and put it in his pocket while you hug him, say here is something that has been on your mind for our love making.
If your H is shy or insecure sexually and someone else stumbles across the note, that might not be too good.
I repair things and read lots of service manuals. I also read relationship books. I like being direct and think a low key, friendly direct approach works best.
If my W would take my hand and tell me to totally relax every muscle in my hand and tell me "I like this done this way with this amount of pressure and speed, it would be so much easier. Latwer I would do variations. Like I said low key and friendly.
