Your trip with the high school girlfriends is an absolutely fantastic idea. That is the best possible kind of GAL activity. I have been reconnecting with 2 really good friends by phone on an almost weekly basis since the "crisis" hit. We have now vowed that we will never allow the long gaps in our communications to occur again. I can't believe how wonderful their support has been for me. I wish you the same with your best friends - support without judgement.
To answer your question, my H has been involved in his A since last August 4 2005. He told me about it this past January 2006. He was visiting OW in Germany, while planning visits to his S12 who lives there also. More trips were supposedly necessary, as we were getting ready for S12 to move to the US to live with us. We have been separated since the reveal of the A in January. I started DBing about 1 week later.
It is great your C told you to be patient. She sounds like a wise C.
You will see that I occasionally struggle with the dating thing also, if you read my thread. Have you read Divorce Remedy yet? There are specific reasons why not to make the tangled web more tangled. I have read that in a lot of other books too. It is a short term round of "fun" to get your ego stroked, but it could add many problems and long term damage to your M. So if you are interested in reconciling, stick with your GF's for now.
My two cents
PositivelyListening ************************************** When one door of happiness closes, another one opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us. - Helen Keller
