I just had a thought. Supposedly (according to her that is) she has some "rich" uncle who is going to help my H pay for the divorce and the lawyers and such. Then when that uncle dies she get ALL his money (don't ask me why). . . so he's marrying a "rich" girl. No wonder he doesn't want to stay with me. . . there's no promise of anything in my future . . especially NOT money.
Quote: Then when that uncle dies she get ALL his money (don't ask me why). . . so he's marrying a "rich" girl. No wonder he doesn't want to stay with me. . . there's no promise of anything in my future . . especially NOT money.
This is so funny. Marrying a 'rich girl'. ROTFLMAO!
If that WERE the case wait till she starts to tighten the leash. Talk about being controlled by a woman.
Would YOU want a man to be with you because of money? What kind of man do you think WOULD be with you because you had money? A dashing hero-type who will sweep you off your feet with 'true love'?
hmm, or maybe a pathetic loser who has no self esteem and lives off others. A parasite. Like a flea.
Is that the kind of 'man' you want?
There's no promise of anything in anyones future. Only what you make happen. If you think that a promise of 'money' is a good thing then you're sadly mistaken. Believe it or not real men DO marry for LOVE.
Pfft. Emily, he'd have to actually marry her and stay with her to be seeing any of that money. That isn't going to happen. They're both cheaters who are extremely young and screwed up and, just... no.
Oh no Frank and surviving . . . you took that as I felt threatened by it. No . . I do feel a little threatened when it comes to the lawyers that money could afford vs. what I can afford. So court time is what makes me nervous.
SURE I know that he is exactly what you said Frank . . . a parasite. . . a flea. He'll suck her till she's dry. Not that it will take long. It's just a jewel glistening . . in the distance to him. That's probably why he is all gung-ho to marry her as soon as he can after we divorce. Before she can even consider a pre-nup . . that's a funny thought.
Not that there even is any uncle with loads of money . . . I've just heard her talk about him A LOT.
It's such a sad thought. If I was with him just for money . . . well quite frankly we would have NEVER gotten together. NEVER. I wouldn't have loved him through our entire marriage of living with other people. Or having no place to really live at all (when went through quite a stretch right before the split where we were living in motels.) . . . I loved him through all of that. Our situation just really sucked. Then we split and he fell in love with Cassie . . . now it's their future NOT our future. Sad Sad Sad . . .
I feel so silly that I let that bother me this morning. WOW . . . Talk about hormones. I'd go into detail here but it's not necessary most women understand . . . or should anyway.
I'm back . . . and I'm feeling GOOD! He's out of my life . . big whoop! I wrote a blog on myspace. It's to my MOST special friend. Hopefully all my friends will read it and understand that it is for them! I feel so bad for the way I have acted. Aye! What a fool I have been.
I will be fine. Better off without him anyway! He used me . . . plain and simple. I'll be better than fine I'll be GREAT! Hope you all have a GREAT night . . . I might be back around later!
Im so sorry you are going through this.Emily one thing I have to say is really follow your heart,you have alot more power than you think you do.My H tells me the same thing,I love OW more.I have more fun with her.!I have bad days and good ones .but I have noticed some small changes.I try to keep hope and work on myself.And I know my H looks at me alot diffrent and he has become very confused.Right now he is on vacation with her.It hurts,.I worked on myself I lost 45 pounds got in shape.It took 8 months for my H to say he noticed.They notice the changes,and I think when were consistant and loving day in and day out.They begin to question themselves! My H stand right now is he dosent know which one he wants. Now one year ago he could have walked away without a second glance.Althought the waiting game sucks its a must.The OW has told my H he is to leave me after this vacation,so I dont know whats in store.But I have found out the hard way ,I have alot more power than I ever thought.Remember the OW is NOTHING NOTHING....she is not worth wasting your thoughts on.
and what happened to asking your doctor for a referall to someone you can talk to ????? don't fall into the trap of having a few good days and thinking you are through all this and out the other end
please find someone to talk to make a list of the important things you need to do and at least do one a day
and good girl realising you can't ring him or he will have your number and she will get it - that is a really great behaviour stopper for you you remind yourself of that everytime you feel you want to call
she does however only call you because she sees you as a threat - her problem don't make it yours
follow through with the advice people are giving you and don't do it all on your own
Emily, sorry I haven't posted in awhile but my husband has shocked me and says he looooooooooooooves me and will grow old with me! I will catch up on your sitch in a bit, sorry to hijack but can you help me link all three of my threads in my signature? 1.Working towars a miracle, 2.Fool in love and 3.Where am I going? Help an old lady out... I have tried a milion times and it always comes up error cannot find website. Thanks... I would really appreciate it. I would like to start a new thread soon. Have a great day Emily. God bless...
bj . . . I haven't had my appointment yet . . . August 7th.
Nothing new to report this morning. I guess he and I really have severed all ties. UGH . . . I HATE IT! I miss talking to him. I feel like I am totally out of the running now. I just keep trying to tell myself that I am better off anyway. I don't really feel better off. . . . divorce feels like crap (even if it could be another two years in the waiting).
He's finally run the whole way away. It hurts.
I am still doing OK . . . I toss and turn a lot at night . . . and I feel pretty lonely . . . BUT . . overall I'm doing alright. Just a low day today.
It's TOO stinkin' hot! I hate this weather. YUCK!
Not even 8 o'clock and I'm already sweating.
Do you think I'll ever hear from him again guys? Or do you think he'll just keep running.
Oh guys . . I am feeling low today. I miss him. Today is the last day of his training downstate. . . and I'll never even know if he passes his CDL . . . I really was so proud. I wonder if she's going to strike out on the road with him tomorrow. Most of all though I wonder where the hell my friend went. I miss him . . . not even so much all the ties and the marriage and all that crap. But I MISS MY FRIEND.
I've known the kid 9 years. . . and WAY back when he used to think I was awful pretty and he'd tell me to smile just because he thought I had a nice smile. Then his family moved around some and when he came back for the last time in 2002 . . . I fell in love with him.
AYE . . . I just want my friend back . . . she shouldn't be allowed to steal that. She can take everything else away. She can have all the rest. BUT damn it he was my friend first. I don't want to lose it all.
I can't call him *couldn't if I wanted to . . I don't have his new number* He can't call me. . . He rarely will get on the internet (I bet he had Cassie change his myspace page). . . How the hell is this ever going work?
Thanks... I would really appreciate it. I would like to start a new thread soon.