Emily, you don't know how because you have no experience in doing for yourself, BY yourself. If you take ANYTHING away from the board today, make it that you understand just how WONDERFUL this can be for you. You are completely free to do what you want, EVEN WITH TWO GIRLS. You CAN make something of yourself and you don't need any man to do that for you. It will be hard at times, but you know what, you just need to get past the hard times.
When we say you need to make yourself happy, we are not talking about dating or finding a new man, we are talking about things like continuing your education, finding out if there are hobbies that you like, go to movies with friends, etc. We are talking about getting the most out of life because you are being a GREAT MOM AND A GREAT INDEPENDENT WOMAN. Those two things don't necessarily go hand in hand. Many great moms sacrifice their entire lives to be moms. Don't think about it that way. If you do first what's best for your babies and THEN remember to also do what's good for you, I think the energy you get from being a happy, whole person can add to your kids' lives, just like being a happy, whole woman can add to your relationship with H or any other man in the future. You only NEED yourself and your kids, everyone else is WAY secondary at this point.
