But you really need to start to talk to your wife about your feelings, and espacilally what you overheard over the phone..
Your wife is cake eating bigtime, she is getting the best og two worlds ,so you need to stop being a doormat to her. you need to start to give som tough love..
You might not wanna realise but you dont have a marriage at the moment, but what you do have is a very abusive relationsship..And you are the won that is letting that happen