I think I just learned another "pursuit" tactic that I am using that I didn't even know I was doing.
She asked me if I could get her some q-tips at work. The old me would have probably said, "I will see if I can." and then forget about it.
I went down and got the qtips. I messaged her and let her know. She messaged back with a "YAY!" and "Thanks for the qtips". Then I think my "I need affirmation" mode kicked in and I said, "If it is important to you, it is important to me." She replied, "Whatever." I didn't say anything back but when I looked back I think that I say things like that to say look at me. . . I am changing!! And hope for a positive response. I think that if I just follow through and help her out that should be good enough. I shouldn't look for affirmation from her. . .it will only disappoint me when I dont' get it. . .
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M 34
H 34
Together 8 yrs
Married 7 yrs
Son 2 1/2
Son 2 1/2
SD 12
