Wife coming but still involved with OM

[missingwifey]

TT
I'm glad you feel I helped. Your a good man and I know, like me, you will do what you have to do to save your marriage. You are in a much better position than I am...something you can feel good about. However, You are in a tough spot. There are quite a few people on this board that are in similar sitches. You are going to have to make some difficult decisions. I hope, that we on this board, will help you make the right ones.

Would you say that she is in somewhat of a mourning phase since she is away from OM??

Could be. I think its a reasonable assumuption.

Is it possible to have a WAW who is still in the same house?? Should I treat this like a WAW sitch??

The fact that she will not give up contact with the OM gives you your answer. She's sitting on the fence. The way I see it. You need to get her to jump onto your side of the fence by being smart and attracting her to make the decision that that's where she wants to be. You have the advantage your with her.

Also, what are your opinions about Ford's reply?? Do you think that I should tolerate this relationship - be it long distance to the OM?? Or, should I save this for the MC and see what he has to say??

I believe Ford's point is valid. Allowing her to continue the relationship will enable her to look at it like you are willing to tolerate it. Trying to send down ultimatums in my experience fail. She will feel, and rightly so, that you are trying to control her...she will push back. Why not wait for the MC? It might help her make the decision you would like her make...I don't think you will loose anything.

Also, when looking for an MC will they know what I am talking about when I ask if there therapy is Solution Oriented??

They should. If they don't, keep searching for one that does.
Hang tough Buddy. Every person on this BB wants you to be successful.

Don