Thanks for the help, all.

Missingwifey, your advice helped a lot. I probably was pursuing to an extent by being overly helpful or nice. I guess that 180 wasn't working as planned so I will try to tone it down some.

I think I knew that snooping would drive me nuts and there is really nothing that I can do about it (confront her, confront him, ect). I guess I just always hope that I will find a message that says, "OM, you are a good friend and that is all. I love being her with my husband. TTYL" I think that the reason I got so unnerved yesterday was that I sent her an e-card yesterday that I actually mailed a month ago expressing how happy I was that she was coming to Chicago to live with me. The card said "There is nobody besides you I would rather be besides." Well, after an ill advised snoop, I found that she sent the SAME card to him after she opened mine!!!!!!!!!!

So, instead of snooping, I will say a prayer, post here, or find some other way to channel my energy. There is nothing good that comes out of my finding information that I know to be true already.

Question to all:
Would you say that she is in somewhat of a mourning phase since she is away from OM??

I have for the last two days backed off from telling her that I loved her and stopped kissing her on the lips - which I could tell was uncomfortable for her because she always gave me the side of her mouth to kiss.

Is it possible to have a WAW who is still in the same house?? Should I treat this like a WAW sitch??

Thanks to all for your help. I am trying to keep the faith and stick to a plan. This is harder than I thought.

Regards,
Tony

M 34 H 34 Together 8 yrs Married 7 yrs Son 2 1/2 Son 2 1/2 SD 12