Wife coming but still involved with OM

[missingwifey]

Sorry about your sitch!

Question about snooping. It is so hard for me to stop because when I think things are going better I will look for something (and usually find it). I feel that I am cheating myself if I don't know what is going on and she is not being truthful to me.

If you want to keep your sanity and stay on the right track to saving your marriage...STOP SNOOPING

I haven't broken down even when she got pissed at me the other day for some very minor things. I mean PISSED for something very small. I asked her what was wrong and she says that I just iritate her. I have been doing nothing but be good to her, offer to help her, doing more than I ever have around the house and with the kids. I feel good when I do these things but unfortunately she is not reciprocating.

My gut tells me your pursuing her right? In my sitch, I used to get the "irritating comment" all the time and as much as I wanted to believe I wasn't pursuing her "I was just helping her or being kind".. I was. She needs space right now. Do yourself and her a favor.. give it to her. I know its hard as hell. Do it for you do it for your marriage

I am tempted to call the OM and ask him to cut off ties with her. Would that be stupid?

Huge mistake!!! Don't even think about it. Your wife will loose her trust in you. She will punish you for interferring...etc. Absolutely Not!!

I hope I've helped and I hope it gets better quickly. Keep us posted.
Don