I'm in a similar sitch. My W said she told the OM that she can't get involved with anyone else until she figures out what is going to happen with her marriage. So they stopped the physical relationship. But she still needs him for the moment to help work on her shows. She sees him every weekend and they get a lot of time to be alone. She refuses to cut off all contact because she says, for now, she can't do her shows without him.
I've decided to back off for now. But if she doesn't eventually cut off all contact with him it will probably be the end of our M because I can't sit around for the rest of my life and wonder what they do when they're alone.
