...thing as ford...she can't work on the marriage while being involved with someone else. One more thing...stop snooping. It will do nothing but drive you crazy and, if she catches you, it will just make her be more sneaky and "careful". All that does is add to the mystery and excitment of the OM. Now...if she agrees to break off the A, then you two should set some guidelines for her conduct until she regains your trust.
