Positively 3rd thread - how do you deal with this?

[RBinBR]

PL, I really think your head is in the right place. I'm all for the separation agreement. I think you really need to back way off for your sitch to have a chance.

I have decided that next time I see H I will give him my heart once more, remind him that I have offered/tried many things to remain connected and supportive (counseling, coaching, financial coaching, seminars have all been suggested, as well as 2 heartfelt letters that have been written to him by me) and that he has not been interested in pursuing those activities or conversations with me. I will offer one other idea (a course through the transformation programs we have participated in in the past, which I think would be AWESOME and helpful) and if he declines or says "I need to think about that" I will let him know that now I am letting go. I am interested in having people with integrity in my life. H knows what this needs to look like, and I will invite him once again to step back into it - let him know the conversation is open for that if/when he ever becomes willing

Great! Except that I'd skip the "sharing your heart" part ... he knows how much you love him.