Wow, Always, what powerful words you have just given PL! I've been at this for 10 months and I learn something new everyday or at the minimum, how to look at things in a different way.

At first I was going to say a note might not be so bad, but now I can see how it might be taken as controlling and pursuit when all we would mean would be trying to show concern. I agree, the MLC mind will twist it all around and our best intentions will be warped in their minds.
And it doesn't matter how 'we' think they may interprete something, it will be different each time they bring it up. So the best thing may be to just sit quietly. I know, we all hate to keep hearing this but it's true!

Right now, our agenda is different than our MLCers and we have to remember to take things at a snails pace. They are incapable of anything else. I just had a wonderful morning interacting w/my H thru a number of phone calls so I'm flying on cloud 9 right now! I agree, they all have to work thru it all by themselves and we can not hurry them up one little bit.

Keep relying on your supportive friends and your BB buddies! We will all walk beside you until H wakes up!
{{{hugs}}}
Sooner

When we get tangled up in our problems, be still. God wants us to be still so He can untangle the knot.