My overall impression is that in some way, and please, this is just a snap impression I am getting, you use your PMA as sort of a weapon or defense mechanism much the same way many people use humor.
I am not trying to make you feel bad, but I wonder if SO much positive vibration may put people on edge, especially your H.
I would HATE to dampen your spirit at all because I think the way you face the world is wonderful, I just want to make sure you understand that some people (and this is mostly THEIR problem) are not comfortable with so much happiness.
I also sense from your post, especially #3, a slight (or maybe not so much) desire to control the situation or "fix" him. I know you may not see it that way, but be leaving him a note outlining for him what his options are, it may give him the impression that even if he wanted to do those things, especially talk to you, that it was something you told him to do and maybe it would make him less likely to do it.
One of the major ideas in DB and other philosophies is that you can't FORCE them to do something, and I would suggest that in your H's case, you may not even be able to coax him into certain things because I believe he MAY see any attempt by you to "be available" as pursuit/control.
I know it sucks to just sit back and see if he does the right thing by you, but MAYBE (and you know how much a fan I am of making your own choices these days) your sitch needs a bit more of that and a bit less pursuit by you.
While I have never really gotten to this point in my sitch, I think there IS something to be said for them missing you and if he IS indeed thinking about you, it may be good to let his mind wander on it's own without SEEMING (we all know the truth, you are using your womanly mind control on him) to be directed by you to an outcome that he THINKS only you want right now.
PL, I want to restate again, I DO NOT WANT to dampen your spirit so if what I say in any way makes you think about doing that, purge it from your mind. Just be aware of perception because as they say, it often can be everything.
