Positively 3rd thread - how do you deal with this?

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PL, that was a brilliant post. I've seen those "dog pound eyes" of fear in my W as well. Thanks so much for that.

Always, I think that exposing works IF the attachment to the OP is not as strong as the attachment to the family. I know a guy who just recently stopped a "casual" affair that was (for him, anyway) strictly about sex. If it had been exposed, it would have ended immediately. You are right, though, that in most of our sitches, the emotional attachment to the OP is stronger than the attachment to the LBS, so exposure forces the WAS to choose, and they usually choose the OP.