Thanks for writing to me. You are far away in the world! It is great that you have found us here. Yes, the concerns about the old patterns. And which is the real spouse? The one we married or the one who just showed up (again?).
I have been thinking a lot about my faith, and believing in my H. I want him to make it out of the hole. I must have faith in him, that he will see that our M is worth the discomfort of the growing required. I have seen this in him before. When I met H, I never met anyone more open to growth. And when he backtracked or ran in the past, it was always due to a trust issue. H will need to keep testing and inching towards trusting me and trusting "us" again. And he will have to realize at some point that OW is not trustworthy. And he will have to forgive himself for his failure to be trustworthy to me, which I can forgive and I have already done so. So I must have faith in the healing of the trust. That is what I will pray for tonight. And I will also focus on being a safe and trustworthy space for my H's feelings, so he will bring them here.
I wish you the best in your sitch. You sound like a good and loving man, exercising unconditional love when your spouse does not have it for herself. I am striving for this also. Thanks for visiting me and reading along. I need the suppport. It is amazing how each person, each comment, helps reveal something.
PositivelyListening ************************************** When one door of happiness closes, another one opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us. - Helen Keller
