Positively 3rd thread - how do you deal with this?

[PositivelyListening]

Hi Always,

Thanks for writing to me. Tonight's latest thought about what to do with the text message: Forward it to OW with a message from me, "H was trying to send this to you. He must have us confused." Since H & OW don't know I have her phone numbers, that was a fun fantasy, give them something to freak about together. However, after I thought about it, I got afraid. Pictured H raging over here, taking away all his stuff, yelling, whatever. He probably wouldn't do that, but it would be a provocation. So I won't do that. I have no interest in provoking H's fear and protectiveness of OW. But just for a moment, I wanted them to squirm. Sometimes I think a properly timed confrontation would really break some ice. But it would also have to be respectful, for my integrity to be intact and for it to have any value. I have not had much success with that yet. Mostly I think I am superior to H right now - I can see what he can't see. Guess that won't help

Keep telling me I can do this DBing thing. I keep forgetting. I am giving H way too much time, effort and energy. I need to refocus on myself. Easier said than done sometimes.