Went round family home today W said 'I want that computer you took when you left for a few days to do my tax. It has Quicken on it.' No, 'can I use your computer please if you dont mind' or anything like that. I told her she couldn't have it and most of the programs that were on it are gone now as I had no use for them. I seems it is my fault she has lost the original discs for her tax program. I advised her to buy a new one. Had she asked instead of demanded I would have let her use it. W still expects me to say 'how high' when she askes me to jump.
It feels good to be taking the power back. Reminds me of someones post here that talked about the 'dumpee' becoming the 'dumper'. I dont have to live in fear of being kicked out of the house anymore because it has already happened. Whatever happens in the future I will be able to handle it I have changed for the better and am still growing day by day. W has lost the plot and to me appears less desirable every time I see her. I am still open to reconcillation but W will have to come out of the her MLC and make the first move. I will still try to be open and friendly towards her but am not going to be walked over or treated with contempt by her. I will not show her any anger, resentment or jealousy. Of course we all know that that is easier said than done.
