Got a TM from W today (friday) 'Hav u plans 4 weekend? U want kids Sat night and Sunday?'. My sitch is am lodging at someones place and have been told that I cannot have the kids around. If I 'get' the kids I have them at the family home whilst W has a sleep over at BF's place. I have previously done this and said 'no worries, It'll be good to be with kids'. Every time W has returned later than she said she would. Well this time when I phoned kids after I recieved the TM W gets on the phone and asks about her TM and I advised that I couldn't do it. W said 'OK' and handed phone to one of the kids, no small talk at all. Got my D to get W back on the phone and told her that if she wanted me to look after kids she would have to give me more notice and we would need the car so we don't end up just sitting around the house for two days. W was very curt in her response. I could tell she was a bit put out by my boundary setting. I really felt like I had/have been accomadating her on the other times I have looked after them so she could get away with her new BF, but am not going to jump at her beckon call any more.
I do want to see my kids as much as I can but am not going to be an on call baby sitter for her.
I know I have to get a place of my own so that the kids can come and stay and I do not have to stay at the family home feeling like an unwelcome guest on an ovenight stay.
W forced me out of the house but wants me back on occasions when she wants. I cannot and will not do it any more. She wants to be a single mum and has told me categorically that I will not be getting any custody whenever I have mentioned I wanted 50% at some stage.
No more hoop jumping for me.
I feel I did the right thing, any comments or thoughts would be greatly appreciated.
