Lot of positives here. Not wanting a D less she falls “in love” is big. With her self-esteem low and the guilt of using you and the kids while she is off “finding herself” I doubt she will find anyone soon. But watching her date must suck. You seem to be doing everything right as far as DB is concerned: giving her plenty of space and supporting her as she finds herself. You are right, we are both in this for the long haul.
I may have to move back into my house to protect my custody rights. My lawyer said moving was not a good idea if I want 50/50 custody. If it goes to trial I am looking at a 12 to 18 month wait. I would rather be stay separated – life is good right now and my attitude is positive – that may change if I have to see her everyday in the same house.
Excellent job on the drinking, especially given the situation. I cut back a lot. In fact, my doc told me my liver function is back to normal; he was quite concerned about it a year ago. I find I don’t need it now; I read that my ‘triggers” for drinking were removed when I moved out; another reason not to go back uninvited.
From your words you sound kind of drained and sad. I hope you are doing some fun things for you. I also hope you are detaching from W. My attitude is getting better and better – if we D or if we reconcile, I am almost past caring. Either way, I will have a good life and I will be a good dad to my kids.
