Hi Paul, Have been following along for quite a while and I am still pulling for you. Has she asked for a D? Has she filed? If not, why not stay the course? Did she have a reaction to the “tough love” letter? Ignoring you and being mad are not necessarily bad – may show she is still conflicted. If she has not filed then that is also positive. It takes a long time to change one’s feelings – especially if she is dealing with the guilt of an affair which she most likely is trying within her to also blame you for.
A custody fight is ugly but if you want 50% then make it clear that is your boundary. That is what I am going to do. If she thinks she can flaunt an affair in front of her children without their father being concerned, she is living in a different reality. Check with a lawyer so see your options. There may a chance to even get or threaten her with sole custody, but your AA may make that a bit more difficult. I don’t know about Australia, but women having affairs don’t go well even in southern U.S. where the mom almost automatically gets custody.
-------------------------------- When will I be able to go through a day without thinking of her? When will I be able to stop dreaming of her? When will she wake up and ask me to come back home? -------------------------------
I go through this every day Paul. Seven months now. I too am thinking of giving up but somehow I soldier on. She is going to file – not me. Good luck.
