This comment of yours reeks of your own insecurity ("So tonight I started doing a new exercise routine and showed my husband and said "if I keep this up, I'm going to be really fckable!!!" )....people in general don't respond well to others insecurity.
Also, if someone said that in front of me...I would feel like I was being put in a no win situation. If a guy were to say yes, to that. Then in essence he's agreeing you aren't fckable right now. If he were to say no, then in essence he's saying don't bother...it won't make any difference.
Guys talk about us women making statements like that all the time (does my ass look fat in these jeans?). Did you really think he would respond to that comment? I can guarantee my H wouldn't have....because he'd have felt tested and wouldn't have had a "right" answer to respond with....so I would receive silence...another wrong answer. See, no win.
Your being fckable...isn't about your weight/appearance. It's about the R between you and your H. There are many men/women (in fact I'd say a majority of them) who have some extra pounds, or flaws in their appearance....that are completely sexually appealing. Self confidence is a trait that attracts people and is quite sexy. Needing validation from our spouse that they find us attractive, is of course PERFECTLY NORMAL, but I think you'll find if you work on your self-confidence, that validation from him may come. Oh, and stop making no-win comments like that.
