I'm no sex therapist, but that is what porn does from what I have read. It turns women into object. Just an end to a means. If his porn addiction is getting worse or has been on going this make explain why it is just sex to him.
Even if that is the case and you know it....where does that leave you? Where does that leave him?
That's a tough one. I've read that most affairs burn out after six months. That addiction has a short fuse. Other addictions can go on for years and years.
My .02 cents, I would not initiate sex for a while if it is making you feel that bad. Work on yourself until you can get to a point to confront your H about the porn. In the meantime do everything you can outside of the bedroom to strengthen your marriage.
