I agree with WCW. It probably takes some pressure off you that you told him.
****and interestingly enough last nights discussion was about DETACHMENT
It's a helluva thing.
Is there anything you can point to that gave you these feelings? Sometimes it is intuition. Sometimes it is overanalyzing. Most of the times it is a mixture of both.
Quote: Is there anything you can point to that gave you these feelings? Sometimes it is intuition. Sometimes it is overanalyzing. Most of the times it is a mixture of both.
Sorry to be blunt but I had been gone for 5 days and he was "not interested" when I got home (if you get my drift ). Now I have been home for three days and he still has shown no interest. I tried to initate the first night, but he just pulled me to him and said just lay here (on his shoulder).
So that is the reason for my uneasy feeling, I guess.
Me 54 DS19 and DS17 Married 06/1989 Divorced 01/2011
NNP- I can see why H's actions since you have been back would give you an uneasy feeling. Although men's behavior in regards to sex is complicated, so the reason he is not acting interested may not be whay you're thinking.
Will you be going to Al-Anon (is that the right group?) again next Tuesday? I went to an Al-Anon meeting more than a year ago and I was unable to get through it without sobbing, so I didn't go back. Because I'm chicken.
Well things on the homefront seem great, like usual. No physical interest from H yet? He still hugs me when he comes in and kisses me good night after we get in bed. I am trying hard not to read anything into it.
I'll see how the weekend goes.
Opti, I am going back. Yes it was Al-Anon. There is not a meeting specifically for ACOA in my area, but most of the people at the meeting were ACOA anyway.
I did not get through the meeting with out sobbing. When it came my turn to say something I appologised and said I could not speak with out crying one woman got up and brought me back a box of kleenex. They all encouraged me to say what I wanted. I cried, but got it out.
If alcohol is or was an issue in your family I urge you try another meeting.
Me 54 DS19 and DS17 Married 06/1989 Divorced 01/2011
Another really nice weekend... still no action in the bedroom though. I am determinded not to initiate. Not sure if that is the right thing or not, but for now I just don't have it in me.
My curiosity got the better of me and I snooped. Didn't find anything other than the porn he normally looks at. Not even any "search sites". I guess that is all he needs and it doesn't matter what I might or might not need.
Almost looking forward to going to the meeting tomorrow night. I really had to juggle some scheduling to be able to get to go, but I was not going to let other things interfere. H is going to have to get each boy where he needs to be at the right time. I am sure he can handle it.
Me 54 DS19 and DS17 Married 06/1989 Divorced 01/2011
Just wondering, why are you determined not to initiate?
Glad you'll get to the meeting and let H handle arrangements for the kiddos. Maybe he needs a little more of that sort of thing as a distraction from the internet?
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
). Now I have been home for three days and he still has shown no interest. I tried to initate the first night, but he just pulled me to him and said just lay here (on his shoulder).
