Lying by omission is still lying. H does it all the time, he's the master and although I hate it I find that I now do it too. Someday it is my hope we will both be beyond this childish stage we are in and be open and honest with each other again. You want an honest healthy marriage. Should you be the leader with your H to accomplish that?
NNP, refresh me. Why don't you want to let your H know about counseling and the meeting? Why keep it secret that you are working to improve yourself which will improve the M? Is keeping this a secret helping you emotionally or turning you into a wreck because H might find out?
Make this trip a time for you to take a break. I've had those same thoughts you are having when I leave for a trip, now H is footloose and fancy free. You cannot control what your H will do while you are gone, or even while you are home. You spent time apart while he was in the military correct? what makes these next few days so much different?
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
