Feeling my way around in the darkness

[NNP1965]

H thinks counseling is a ridiculas joke. People who seek counseling are ridiculas jokes.

[JokerMan]

Guess that's why I'm Jokerman then.

Seriously, my dad is a West Point grad and a vet. I can empathize with the type of thinking that comes from a military background. Esp. when it comes from counseling...or other people trying to help rather that just telling you what to do.

[NNP1965]

thanks JM, I appreciate the empathy.

[JokerMan]

So what are you going to tell him?

[NNP1965]

No idea. I was hoping for some more input.

[WCW]

Did you make it to the meeting?

[NNP1965]

Oh sorry, I did not even realize last night was the meeting night until I just read you post. I am planning on starting next Tuesday.

[optimist2004]

Ridiculous Joke. Waste of money. I don't need someone to tell me how to be a husband.

Yeah, I've heard all that too.

I'm racking my brains for excuses...what would happen if you just said "I'm going to be out Tuesday evening. I'll be home at [whatever time]" Would he even ask where you are going? If so, how about..."a friend of mine needs to talk about some things for a while." If he asks who, you could say "Someone I met at [fill in the blank]." So you're lying, but there's some possible truth to it. Especially if you actually grew to feel friendship for anyone in the group. (I'm a writer-we're all lyers.)

What excuse do you give him when you go see the counselor? Or is that during work hours anyway? Maybe you could say you have to go to the office, or put in over time...then he'd really start wondering.

[JokerMan]

How would he react if he knew that you were going because of your past and because of you not your marriage?

[optimist2004]

keep forgetting to add your thread to my favorites...