Feeling my way around in the darkness

[grasshopper]

NNP,

I often recommend PM (passionate marriage) to people. I think it is a GREAT book that helped me address a lot of my intimacy issues. More than that, it really helps explain, on a more sexual level, the issues that exist between men and women much like Mars/Venus does in the rest of the relationship. It is NOT for the feint of heart, as was suggested but if you can stand a few "naughty" words here and there, it is a VERY eye opening way to look at things.

GH

[WCW]

we had a quicky AND initiated again and he responded

I am really happy for you, but quit rubbing it in okay???!

I know for a fact that he never checked his email while he was gone. That is comforting.

Now just how would you know that? and what if the results were different?

Strangest? we're all in the running for that trophy!

[NNP1965]

I know for a fact that he never checked his email while he was gone. That is comforting.

Now just how would you know that? and what if the results were different?

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'cuz he told me. LOL I promise I did not snoop!

[Delil@h]

I initiated again and he responded. Which is VERY unusual for us.

EXTRAORDINARY...

[NNP1965]

I have been trying out a few things and so far so good (mostly). He did close a computer screen when I walked in to the room yesterday, but I did not investigate to see where he might have been. so I just have to ass-u-me that he was looking at a jewelry store site and is planning to buy me an extravagant gift! Right?

I want to share something I read in the book I mentioned above:

There are four rules of alcoholic families, supposedly. this is the under the heading The Rule of Denial

If I pretend that this is not happening, then maybe it will go away is the motto by which many ACoAs live their lives. Denying reality - particularly painful reality - is second nature. The it-will-be-different-this-time way of looking (or not looking) at the world gets the ACoA into many painful situations, particularly in sexual relationships. Many ACoAs will stay with a partner, pretending time after time that things are going to be different, and, of course, they never are. They get worse.

I think I need to go throw up now.....

[JokerMan]

UGH well I do think there is some denial going on from what I've read.

When is your next counseling session? Have you had a chance to ask the C what you can do NOW as well as working on the past??

[NNP1965]

JM... Denial is my middle name! My next seesion is not until Thursday, but I will ask her then.

[JokerMan]

DOH! You told me that. Just remembered.

[Matilda2]

Just catching up. Nothing to add--just trying to deal with my own strange sitch. Hope your next counseling session goes well.
Matilda

[JokerMan]

Well it does sound like there is some progress. Please let me know what the C says about what to do now. I will do the same. Maybe btw our two C we will get some good advice.