First and foremost contacting that other member was not a good idea....and I can totally understand your H's frustration and anger at that....it takes away his dignity to have you go to a friend of his (even if it is yours) and discuss issues that are in your family...this puts your husband in bad light and ultimately you too...personally if I had done something like this...which amounts to a breach of trust between a H and W....I would be appologizing for my actions in contacting his fellow club member....
Quote: I'm just VERY Weirded out over all this crap because you said "you’re right you do need to be with your guy friends” and your actions and vibes are saying the opposite.
I have to agree with your H too...if your'e going to tell him that he can be a member of this club and go to the meetings but then turn around and convince him that he MUST do something else (I am going by your conversation) your actions and vibes are telling him how you really feel.....
I don't condone his behavior either....the language and temper tantrum wasn't good and was immature....
A good compromise would have beenfor him tohave been a few minutes late to his meeting...I am sure the club would have understood...and he would have taken care of his daughter...
Perhaps discussing with him for the future a compromise if there is a family conflict with the club....so both are cared for.... giving a little here and taking a little there...
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Quote: I saw OM last night and while I didn’t’ have the 4th of July sparks, it was tempting…
That is a huge mistake...if you don't stop immediately thinking about this man you WILL end up with regrets...you are allowing your mind to continue to toy with the "idea" of him...this will show in your relationship....how do you think an affair "just happened"....it is because the person allowed themself to just think about it...when a desire becomes fertile you have sin...right now you are watering the seeds of desire....
All I can say is when I saw that line I got a sick feeling in the pit of my stomach...you have had many people telling you to stay away, stop thinking this way....yet when things don't go right at home you go right back to thinking about the OM....
I can tell you that if it comes to the point that you cross the line...I won't be able to be here in support of you....listen to the warnings....before it is too late!!!
