OK damage control here.

What has been said has been said.

You and your H (IMO) are in a crucial point. Unconditional love conquers all. I believe that not because I can do it, but because I believe in Christ.

My .02 cents is to set aside everything else and love your hubby. Push the ego down, push the hurt down. Push it all down and love.

Again just my gut thoughts. Take it with a grain of salt.